At school, university or simply growing up around the same people, communication rarely had to be planned. You kept seeing the same faces, and a casual acquaintance could gradually turn into friendship. Adult life works differently. Old friends live in different cities and countries, new people do not appear automatically, and messages on a phone can easily create the feeling that we are still connected even when we hardly ever have a real conversation.
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I write about family, life in Norway, wellbeing, FitLine, personal growth and business. Here you will find personal stories, observations and answers to questions I have researched for myself.
Over a few years, I gradually got used to things that I was no longer really happy with. My back bothered me more often, after a longer walk I wanted to sit down, I did not always wake up feeling rested, and I could drink five or six cups of coffee during the day. Each of these things was easy to explain on its own. But when I looked at my condition as a whole, I understood something simple: I wanted to feel better.
One thing is feeling tired after a hard day. Another is waking up tired and slowly getting used to it. For a long time I explained my lack of energy with age, stress, moving abroad and simply having too much going on. Then I started using FitLine, and for the first time in a long while I noticed a clear difference in how I felt.
When I was a child, my mother was simply my mother and my father was simply my father. I never thought about how much they worked, what they were afraid of, what they worried about or how often they put their own plans aside because of their children. I started understanding many of these things only after I became a father myself.
As I have got older, I have become much more careful about first impressions. People can learn to speak well, carry themselves confidently and make a strong impression. Trust comes later for me, when I see how someone treats others, keeps agreements and talks about people who are not in the room.
Forty hours a week sounds like a normal work schedule. But when you multiply those hours by years, the number starts to look very different. I am not against work, and I am not looking for a way to do nothing. I simply think more often now about another question: how much of my life am I ready to exchange for income, and do I want to be living in the same rhythm ten years from now?
I often hear that school teaches us a lot of subjects but does not really prepare us for adult life. I partly understand that. School did not teach me how to build a business, raise children or start again in another country. But the older I get, the more clearly I see that school did give me a lot of important things. We just did not call them life skills back then.